How to Find the G-Spot (part 1)
The question over the existence of the g-spot provokes controversy, both in medical circles and in studies of sexuality. Skeptics typically contend that all of the evidence pointing indicating its presence are anecdotal and call into question methodology used to locate it. However, considering the vast amount of women who say they have regular g-spot orgasms, and that their most intense multiple orgasms come through g-spot stimulation, it’s short-sighted to dismiss the g-spot out of hand. The best evidence comes from personal experience, so here’s a short discourse on the g-spot’s location, as researched by women looking for peak sexual experience, and some tips on finding it, so that you can experience g-spot stimulation for yourself.
The g-spot is a spongy area surrounding the urethra, shaped somewhat like a lima bean; the clusters of nerve endings located in this area give it some similarities to the male prostate. It tends to be located about 3 inches inside the front wall of the vagina. So if you’ve made contact with a soft, raised area, you know that you’ve made contact.
To assist in locating your g-spot, getting yourself turned on is a useful first step, and it makes the process more pleasurable as well. When you’re aroused, your g-spot becomes engorged with blood, so the raised area becomes more prominent and easier to locate. So clitoral stimulation or any other masturbation technique that excites you is a good way to begin your search.
When you’ve become aroused, slip your finger deeper into your vagina and flex it into a position as if you’re beckoning somebody to come over. The curve of your finger will give it the best position to find your g-spot. Lube is helpful for a deeper insertion, so have some of that on hand. The texture of the g-spot is going to be noticeably different from your vagina’s smooth walls, especially if you’ve reached a state of arousal. Make a mental note of what the difference is in the feel and the location of the upraised spot. The exact position of the g-spot varies from woman to woman, but it’ll be found between 11 and 1 o’clock in the general area around your urethra.
When you’ve located your g-spot, you’ll likely feel a sensation that’s strongly like the one you feel when you’ve got to urinate. Don’t feel anxious; you’re not about to pee, so you don’t have to stop probing your g-spot. Any fluid release will come from a g-spot orgasm and the fluid that comes with female ejaculation is comes from the Skene’s glands, not the bladder. So you’re free to engage in g-spot massage and g-spot stimulation without worry that you’re going to wet the sheets; it simply won’t happen.
Once you’ve located your g-spot, the tingling sensations you’ll feel will be enhanced by g-spot massage. Vary the rhythm and pressure you apply to the spot and see what method of g-spot stimulation works for you. If you can simultaneously stimulate your clitoris, the overall experience will be intensified, leading to a greater chance of a g-spot orgasm and ejaculation. The good news: a g-spot orgasm is likely to trigger multiple orgasms, each more intense than the last.
If you don’t find your g-spot on your first try, don’t get discouraged. There’s no pressure here and any discovery of your body and sensuality is always a good thing. What turns us on is unique from person to person; your explorations might yield arousal in other areas you weren’t expecting. It may take repeated attempts to locate; just relax and have fun.
